Although I believe that men and women are more alike than they are different, there are a few differences between the sexes that can range from Vive la Difference to Why Doesn’t S/He Get It?
These differences can cause miscommunication at the workplace, in social settings, and most important, in our personal relationships and family.
Now I’ve read and reread Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray and You Just Don’t Understand by Deborah Tannen. These are both helpful books that analyze the differences between men and women, but I sense that more women are reading these books than men. Or if the men in my life are reading these types of books, they certainly aren’t talking about it.
I could probably come up with twenty things I wish men knew about women, but I will limit it to only 3.
1. Romance novels are cathartic and can help women be happier and ultimately more productive in their lives.
I may be biased because I write romance novels and have been reading them since I was 12, but I find that a good romance novel reminds me that love is possible, helps me become more at peace with my chaotic world, and encourages me to go forth to succeed.
2. Women don’t want to be told what to do.
At least, most of the women I know don’t want that. I think sometimes women allow themselves to be bossed around out of fear, insecurity or habit. But that’s not ideal. Isn’t it always better to have two people figuring out the best course of action rather than relying only on the wisdom of one?
3. If you do nothing else, Listen.
It’s nice to have someone to agree with you, to admire you, or to offer help when needed, but ultimately I just want to be understood. Listen to me with respect. Whatever happens next, I’ll deal with it. But please, listen first. And I’ll do my best to listen to you, too. This goes along with Stephen R. Covey’s “Seek first to understand, then to be understood” habit.
In listing these three points, I realize that my husband is pretty good on all of these. I guess I should ask him what three things he wishes Women Knew About Men. Vive le difference.